What I Learnt After Being Involved In Blogger Twitter Drama
So if you follow me on Twitter you may (or may not) have seem that Lana went and got herself involved in a 'lil old bit of drama a while ago. Now I've been involved in the blog community on Twitter since the end of 2015 and can proudly say that I managed to steer clear of any drama for that entire time up until a month or so ago. I will be the first to admit that I can be a bitch. I'm sure most of us would be lying if we said we weren't. I'm also totally gobby and I lack a filter (BUT I'm also self aware so it's all about balance).
I'm not really going to go in to what happened because frankly it was really petty and no one was in the right, so if you're here for gossip (I know I would be) you are probably going to be disappointed. This isn't about who was in the wrong or who done or said what.
It doesn't matter what anyone else involved in the situation done right now, but I will hold my hands up and say that I made a very petty and unthoughtful comment on a girls eyebrows. It got screenshotted and posted on Twitter amongst other comments. Now it sounds really trivial and dramatic but this caused a rather big stir on my Twitter feed, and suddenly hundreds of accounts were tweeting about how out of order we had been and calling us out. That said, there were a lot of people also sticking up for us. It was a bit of a messy situation and as I said earlier no one was in the right and no one handled it well.
I would like to say now to anyone that witnessed that and to the girl the comment was said about and to the people that were offended that I genuinely am sorry. I was totally mortified and ashamed with myself over the comment I had made in a (not very private) group Whatsapp chat and I shouldn't have done it. The person I said it about had made comments or said something that I thought were disrespectful towards someone, but that is by no means a reason to bring someones appearance in to it. If the comment that I had made had been criticising her actual behaviour and actions then I would happily stand by it, but there was never a need to attack her looks.
Now please know that it was never meant to be vicious, it was a group of a few bloggers venting about someone and it got ugly. We have all been guilty of it.
What I have learnt though is this, the second I tore down that girl for the fact I didn't like her eyebrows (COME ON ALLANAH) I immediately became worse than her. One of the only powers we have in this world is that we have control over how we react to situations and we have control over what our mouths say or our fingers type.
As girls we are already pitted against one another so much, its engraved in us. Us talking about each others appearance in a nasty or shameful way then makes other girls think that it's normal. It makes Men think it's okay to talk about us that way, because girls bitch all the time anyway, right?
That was the defence that I made earlier on in this blog post and that was the defence that myself and others used when it all kicked off. But I now really believe that it does not have to be that way. I used to think that girls on Twitter that spoke about how we should all lift one another up and #girlboss it together were just throwing about niceties and rainbows to sound good. My attitude has changed, and I'm glad it has. The more positivity you put out there, the more that will be returned to you. If you put negative vibes out there then I guarantee you they will return to you. Maybe not in the form of Twitter mentions, but they will return.
If you don't like what someone says or does then don't do anything other than strive to be better than that.