What I Learnt After Being Involved In Blogger Twitter Drama

16th June 2017


So if you follow me on Twitter you may (or may not) have seem that Lana went and got herself involved in a ‘lil old bit of drama a while ago. Now I’ve been involved in the blog community on Twitter since the end of 2015 and can proudly say that I managed to steer clear of any drama for that entire time up until a month or so ago. I will be the first to admit that I can be a bitch. I’m sure most of us would be lying if we said we weren’t. I’m also totally gobby and I lack a filter (BUT I’m also self aware so it’s all about balance).

I’m not really going to go in to what happened because frankly it was really petty and no one was in the right, so if you’re here for gossip (I know I would be) you are probably going to be disappointed. This isn’t about who was in the wrong or who done or said what.

It doesn’t matter what anyone else involved in the situation done right now, but I will hold my hands up and say that I made a very petty and unthoughtful comment on a girls eyebrows. It got screenshotted and posted on Twitter amongst other comments. Now it sounds really trivial and dramatic but this caused a rather big stir on my Twitter feed, and suddenly hundreds of accounts were tweeting about how out of order we had been and calling us out. That said, there were a lot of people also sticking up for us. It was a bit of a messy situation and as I said earlier no one was in the right and no one handled it well.

I would like to say now to anyone that witnessed that and to the girl the comment was said about and to the people that were offended that I genuinely am sorry. I was totally mortified and ashamed with myself over the comment I had made in a (not very private) group Whatsapp chat and I shouldn’t have done it. The person I said it about had made comments or said something that I thought were disrespectful towards someone, but that is by no means a reason to bring someones appearance in to it. If the comment that I had made had been criticising her actual behaviour and actions then I would happily stand by it, but there was never a need to attack her looks.

Now please know that it was never meant to be vicious, it was a group of a few bloggers venting about someone and it got ugly. We have all been guilty of it.

What I have learnt though is this, the second I tore down that girl for the fact I didn’t like her eyebrows (COME ON ALLANAH) I immediately became worse than her. One of the only powers we have in this world is that we have control over how we react to situations and we have control over what our mouths say or our fingers type.

As girls we are already pitted against one another so much, its engraved in us. Us talking about each others appearance in a nasty or shameful way then makes other girls think that it’s normal. It makes Men think it’s okay to talk about us that way, because girls bitch all the time anyway, right?

That was the defence that I made earlier on in this blog post and that was the defence that myself and others used when it all kicked off. But I now really believe that it does not have to be that way. I used to think that girls on Twitter that spoke about how we should all lift one another up and #girlboss it together were just throwing about niceties and rainbows to sound good. My attitude has changed, and I’m glad it has. The more positivity you put out there, the more that will be returned to you. If you put negative vibes out there then I guarantee you they will return to you. Maybe not in the form of Twitter mentions, but they will return.

If you don’t like what someone says or does then don’t do anything other than strive to be better than that.

 

 

Allanah xxx

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  • I think it can be so easy sometimes to lose control on social media platforms and say things that you regret. It’s definitely a learning experience.

    http://ohduckydarling.com

    • Allanah Methven

      Yes so agree, we forget that although our online lives are very much virtual our actions are very much real! Thanks for commenting girl x

  • I love that you’ve been so honest about this, and learnt from it. Learning from it is the most important thing, and the fact that you have speaks volumes!xx

    Hannah | luxuryblush

    • Allanah Methven

      Was a bit nervey putting this up but I think a lot of us have been there! Thanks so much for reading and taking the time to comment lovely xx

  • Its great how you spoke up and admitted you were wrong. I haven’t seen the drama but i got the jist of it in this post x

  • I’m personally not a huge fan of when people screenshot private WhatsApp group chats and post them on social media- even if the people involved were being bitchy. I mean, what are you going to achieve by doing that other than stirring up drama? But it’s great that you’ve been the bigger person and learnt from the experience. And I’m in love with this line- “If you don’t like what someone says or does then don’t do anything other than strive to be better than that.” Great post!

    Alice | Alice In Wonderlust

  • Love your honesty!! And really we all moan and bitch.. it’s completely normal and usually a throw away comment. It’s good you owned up to and something positive came from it!

  • Michelle Gil Santini

    I think we are all guilty on something even tho karma will always get to us what I learn from this past month the best thing you can do to avoid drama or simply someone you don’t like is to unfollow them from their social media it’s the best way to block those unwanted negative energy.

    Michelle| http://www.brokebutflawless.com

  • Steph

    Well done – it’s not easy to put yourself out there to say that you did something foolish and embarrassed yourself, but anyone here that thinks they’ve not said something they shouldn’t is telling big fibs! Wicked that you’ve learned from it! xo

    http://www.possumpeach.wordpress.com

  • I agree with you that we all have said something/or acted in ways we now regret. Well done for publicly acknowledging that you were wrong and also apologising.

    http://www.onyixtus.com

  • Admitting and appologising for what you’ve done wrong can be so hard sometimes, because it can make you feel so down about yourself. So proud of you for putting up this post and learning from your actions
    Aleeha xXx
    http://www.halesaaw.co.uk/

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